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YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED...
Getting Off to a Good Start with Your Wedding Invitations
by Bea A. Guest
Inviting your family and friends to share your wedding day with you and your fiancé is half the fun of making wedding plans.

If you are going to have a traditional, fairly large wedding (100 or more guests), you will want to send formal invitations. Word your invitations in the formal and traditional way:
Mr. and Mrs. John Smith
Request the honour of your presence
at the marriage of their daughter
Jane Smith
to
Mr. John Doe
on Saturday, the first day of January, 1999
at three o'clock p.m.
in St. Mark's Church
Darling Point, Sydney
followed by a reception at the
Manchester Reception Lounge
23 Manchester Rd
Rushcutters Bay - Use no abbreviations except for titles (Doctor/Dr., Mister/Mr., Captain/Capt., etc.) and never use nicknames or initials.

Prepare your invitations by carefully wording them and writing them out in full, long before you go to your printer.
THE HEADING
The invitation begins with the name of the person(s) sponsoring the wedding. Traditionally, the parents of the bride are the sponsors. But in today's often complex family arrangements, many other options are more than acceptable. If one parent is deceased, the surviving parent is the sponsor. If your parents are divorced, the primary caretaker would be considered the sponsor. In the case of today's friendly divorces, many brides opt to have both parents sponsor, though separately:
Ms. Jane Brown Smith
and Mr. John Smith
request the honour of...

If you are truly giving your own wedding, or in the case of those of you who have been cohabitating for sometime, it is completely proper and nowadays most common for your names to appear as your own sponsors:
Ms. Jane Doe
and Mr. Jon Jones
request the honour of your presence
at their marriage...

REPLY CARDS
In the lower left hand corner of your invitation, you should request a response from the invitees. This will help you get an accurate head count for both seating at the ceremony and dining at the reception. It may read:
R.S.V.P.
Kindly Respond
or Please Respond

The best way to be sure of your guest list is to include a response card to be filled out by the guest, and returned in a self-addressed, stamped envelope which you provide enclosed in the invitation. You will want to look over the many options for the wording on your response cards with your printer. This will make it clear to your guests if they are being invited alone, or welcome to bring a guest or child, or you may wish to hear from only those who will be attending. Decide on what's best for you. Your printer will have many variations available from which to choose.

OTHER ENCLOSURES
You may wish to enclose a separate reception invitation, instead of having that information on the main invitation. There could be several reasons for doing this. One is that everything about your wedding is truly formal and you do not wish to clutter up the invitation proper with that information. Another is if you are inviting certain people only to the ceremony and not to the reception, or vice-versa: you insert the reception cards only in the envelopes of those who are invited to both. Lastly, the reception card is a handy reminder for your guests. They can simply tuck the reception card in their pocket or purse and have all the information they need at hand without carrying the bulky envelope. This is particularly useful if the reception is not immediately following the ceremony: it is a good reminder for your guests if they have repaired to a bar or someone's home during the lull between events and could lose track of time.

You may also wish to enclose a map and/or detailed directions to the church and/or reception location. This is particularly helpful if either location is in an out-of-the-way place and even if not, it is a good idea for your out of town guests. Many reception halls have pre-printed maps they will let you have, or you can have your printer make some up for you.

PRINTING
Your invitations should be printed in black typescript on a double sheet of fine white or off-white paper. You may customize your invitations by using unusual sizes, special paper like parchment or linen, or different colours (usually pastels or earth tones). A beautiful and classy way to personalize your invitations is to have a professional calligrapher design an invitation just for you.
If you are planning a wedding that is less than traditional, you can choose from many other invitation styles. Your printer will have many sample books on hand. The paper may be coloured and/or textured and may feature decorative touches like wedding bells or angels in the corners. This is also a less expensive approach than the formal invitation as the paper used is generally of a lighter weight. The wording can also be less formal and lighter in tone, or more personalized:

Mr. and Mrs. John Smith
invite you to share their joy in
the marriage of their daughter
Jane
and John Brown Jr.

INFORMAL
If your wedding is truly informal (married at home, marry outdoors, very small, etc.), you could actually send handwritten invitations or invite your guests by telephone. It would still be a good idea, however, to use something from a printer, especially if your handwriting is not the clearest. We have seen some perfectly nice informal invites which were typeset by a printer and included directions and a map and simply run off on a photocopier.

ADDRESSING
The inner envelope in your invitation is addressed by name only to the individual(s) being invited to the wedding. It is handwritten. You should use only the title and name, for example: Dr. and Mrs. Smith, or Mr. and Mrs. Jones, or Mr. John Doe and Guest. For children, you may simply add their names after the parent(s): Mr. and Mrs. Smith and Stephanie, or Ms. Jane Doe and Jason. Single adults (over eighteen) living in the same house (including children still at home while attending school or boarders or other members of an extended family) should each receive a separate invitation, indicating, of course, whether they are invited to bring a guest.

The outer envelope should include the full name, complete address and any other names of those invited listed underneath the principal name.

WHEN TO SEND
Allow yourself plenty of time for printing, addressing, mailing and receiving the responses. You should have worded your invitations and placed your order with the printer at least ninety (90) days before the wedding date. Get a head start on addressing the envelopes by asking your printer to let you have them right away, before the rest of the printing has been finished. Make sure you use blue or black ink only, and keep your handwriting extra neat for this very special mailing.

Mail the invitations as soon as you get them back from the printer to ensure that everyone you really want to attend will be free to witness one of the greatest moments of your life and to help you celebrate the occasion afterwards!

by Sara Haese

Everybody talks about wedding invitations, but what about all the other terms and items that are associated with them. Below are explanations of some of the more common terms and items that you’ll probably encounter while shopping for your invitations.

Seal n Send Invitations: This type of invitation is mailed to guests as a single-folded piece (without an envelope) having the respond postcard attached to the invitation by a perforation for easy removal. Since the respond piece is a postcard, you will save on postage for the return mailing. Prices for this product normally include seals along with a printed return address on both the back flap when initially mailing the invitation and on the perforated respond postcard.

Announcements: For those who wont be invited to your wedding but you would still like them to know about your marriage, you can mail them an announcement card. They can be printed on the same paper as your invitation but mailed on your wedding day or immediately after with the wording stating that your wedding has already taken place.

Reception Cards: If there isn’t enough room on your invitation for listing the details of your reception or if not all guests will be invited to attend the reception, reception cards can be ordered to match your invitations and then be included as a separate insert. Please keep in mind that this card could possibly add to your mailing cost since postage is based on weight.

Respond Cards: These cards are essential to planning for your dinner/reception since an accurate guest attendance count will be needed for food and seating preparations. The respond card along with its mailing envelope will be inserted with your invitation. Remember to include a postage stamp on this small envelope which will also have a mailing address already printed on it so all your guests have to do is fill out the card and mail it back by the date you have printed on it.

Map Cards: These direction cards would be included as a convenience for any guests who might not be familiar with the location of the church and/or reception.

Printed Invitation Envelope Flaps: This option of having your return address printed on the outside envelope can save you valuable time and ensure that undeliverable invitations are returned to you. There is a small cost involved but it also gives an address to those who might not be able to attend but still want to send you a card or gift.

Lined Inner Envelopes: For a small charge, you can request your inner envelopes have a colored lining to add a special touch to your invitation ensemble. Colour choices will vary depending on the invitation style you choose.

Envelope Seals: These self-adhesive labels add just the right finishing touch. They are available in many styles and are used on your outer envelope making it look like they are holding the flap down even though it has already been sealed.

Informal Notes: These are used separately from your invitations but should be included with your original order since they are usually printed on matching paper and this will save you on shipping costs. They are personalized with either your names or monogram on the front with the inside being blank for writing your thank you notes. Any leftovers can be used long after the wedding for other purposes. Blank mailing envelopes are included with them.

Not all of the above items are necessary to make your wedding invitations complete. Remember, this is your special day, so it’s your decision as to which ones you would like to include as part of your invitation ensemble.

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